Who You Tip and Who You Don't by Crista Tharp

There are various beliefs about tipping, and I have a very unique and unpopular view on it. I believe that a vendor needs to charge what his services are worth and not expect a tip. If this means they build their tip into their final price – so be it. However, there are many vendors who don’t agree.

In fact, a much respected D.J. I know, who is also a good friend, has a completely different view and I thought I’d put it in his own words. “My personal thought is this…If you go to McDonald’s to eat, you pay in advance and take what you get. Nobody tips the poor kid at McDonald’s.  If you go out to a real restaurant, you order your food, eat it, and then pay. If something isn’t right, they fix it on your bill. You add a tip depending on the quality of service. You have a much higher expectation at a restaurant, and if it is met and/or exceeded, you pay more than your bill says in appreciation. If something is not right (your food never shows up or it is not what you ordered), you do not pay until it is resolved.  If I’m paying $100-200 for dinner out, I’ll pay you when you get it right; and if it’s real nice, I’ll give you an extra few bucks for taking good care of us.”

There are obviously two schools of thought on this issue, and it is better if you know both so you can make a more educated decision.  As a Wedding Coordinator, it is my job to make sure all vendors are paid before or on that night.  My clients don’t want to worry about it or who they should tip that night.  Tipping also depends on the vendor.  If it is the Wedding Coordinator, they will be getting all of the money except for the wage they pay their staff.  For a D.J., they may work for a company, but the actual D.J. doing the reception only makes a fraction of the overall price, ultimately relying on the tips they make.

 However, there are times that are perfect for tipping no matter what your views are on the subject.  If a vendor has gone above and beyond to make your day wonderful, then tip them.  If they gave you a special deal, tip them.  If the cake was six tiers and difficult to deal with, tip them.   

 Below are the “traditional” guidelines to tipping.  Remember to look on the contract and see if gratuity is already included.  Limousine services do this frequently, as well as caterers.  Right now, caterers will charge you 18% for gratuity.  Ultimately, tipping is at your discretion.

Last changed: Apr 23 2008 at 3:56 PM